Surrogate times two

Rudy Norman
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A year ago, when Clayton and Taryn Remedios of Ajax, Ont., were looking for a candidate to become a surrogate mother to help them conceive a child, they found one in Springdale who was willing, able and excited to help them on their journey.
Soraya Grothe made headlines across the province as being one of the first women in Newfoundland and Labrador to act as a surrogate for the Ontario couple, who were having difficulty conceiving a child on their own.

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The whole process was a foreign concept to many in this province, and only something many heard about or saw on TV, since the procedure isn't available in Newfoundland and Labrador.

However, Grothe, fulfilling a dream for herself, set out to make someone else's dream come true, and give the couple in question something they couldn't achieve without her.

"I've always dreamed of being a surrogate," she explained to tc° Media at the time. "Even before we had our own children, it was something I knew I wanted to do. There's something about helping someone who can't have their own children, to experience that dream."

Grothe said she's still in contact with the Remedios family.

"We get pictures, and we Skype, and email, and talk - it's definitely like I'm part of the family," she said joyfully. "They still call me Tummy Mummy, so he's going to grow up knowing who I am, for sure."

Baby Liam was born in Grand Falls-Windsor on March 2, 2013, which means his first birthday is just around the corner.

However, whether or not Tummy Mummy will be there to celebrate the occasion remains to be seen, since travelling is up in the air these days for a very special reason.

Grothe is expecting another baby - and for the second time, she's helping a couple's dream come true by being a surrogate.

"The first time was so amazing - it really was," she said. "So I wanted to do it again. It's the best thing I've ever done."

Grothe said she didn't waste any time after Liam was born, before making the decision to become a surrogate for the second time.

"I signed back up (to the surrogate agency) about a month after I gave birth. You have to wait six months after you give birth until you can do it again, but after I was contacted by the second couple, they were fine with waiting."

Finding a match this time, she said was easier than last time, because she had past experience to go on.

"It was a little easier this time because I knew what I was looking for," she said.

Grothe said she's been using the experiences of her first surrogacy to help with this one, and admits that being down this road before means she's looking forward to what waits at the end of the day.

"I think it's more fulfilling this time because I've already seen the end result and I know what's coming," she explained. "I wasn't sure what to expect with the end result the last time, because everyone was saying 'oh, you'll have a really hard time when you have to give the baby to the parents,' and I didn't. I was really excited to give them their baby, so this time I already know how exciting it's going to be when the time comes, so I'm looking forward to that already, because I get to see that new family."

As for whether this will be her last time as a surrogate, Grothe said she's never saying never.

"If I did it again, I know the couple I did it for before is seriously considering again, and if they did, I'd totally want to do it for them, but that's a decision me and my husband would have to make," she said cautiously. "But we'll cross that bridge when we come to it, and, as of right now, I don't plan on doing it again."

However, spending a few moments talking to Grothe gives a person the realization that she's quite proud of what's she's been able to accomplish in her life, and especially proud of being able to help others achieve their dreams of starting a family like her own.

"Other than having my own children, there's nothing more amazing," she said.

 

Geographic location: Newfoundland and Labrador.However, Grand Falls-Windsor

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  • jennifer
    February 20, 2014 - 16:07

    all the best....giving a family the treasure they always longed for, is truly amazing.....